You made it! You survived the big day. You ate, you drank, and now you’re married. All your pre-wedding stress has melted away… and turned into post-traumatic wedding stress disorder (not a real thing, sorry). You have a huge pile of thank-you notes to write. UGH it’s like homework for adults and you’ve got serious writer’s block.
Not to worry, my friend. I’ve written a simple guide to help you clear the mental clutter and get to the goal: a tidy pile of completed and addressed notes ready for the mailbox.
Let’s enter the circle of honesty and trust for a moment. Guys, I failed at this. Miserably. I sent out my thank-yous randomly here and there entirely too late after my wedding and I’m pretty sure in the chaos there were some guests that never got any. Yikes. I’m embarrassed. Don’t be me. Be kind, be smart, be intentional, and get. the. job. done.
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Stop! Stop with the guilty “I must complete this task” attitude. I know it sounds cheesy and dumb but being thankful can really inspire you to speak from the heart. When you’re truly thankful, you’ll find you have a lot more to say! Take a few minutes to remember your day and all the fun you had. Take a moment to think about all the people that gave up their only day off to come see you from far away. Take a moment to remember the fun of opening a giant pile of gifts and cards. Take a moment to think about how empty your bank account would be without all of your guests’ help in starting a new life. Okay… good enough. Let’s move on.
Now what are you supposed to say? And how much do you say? And how do you say it?
For one, you don’t need to write a 5 paragraph essay to each guest. Guests are understanding. They know you have 200 other notes to send out. Some of your guests may still be experiencing hand cramps from their own thank-you notes 30 years ago. Keep the notes to this basic strategy: simple, kind, and to the point. I personally think you needat least3-5 sentences to get the appropriate balance. This is purely a made-up number, but it works as a starting point. (There are exceptions, of course. If Grandma gave you a huge check, paid for your honeymoon, or traveled from 11 states away to come see you, it’s worth taking a few extra minutes to thank her sincerely and at length!)
Some gifts aren’t that cut and dry. This little formula works great if you got something straight from your registry (you know, the ideal scenario.) But what if something goes wrong? I’ve got you covered. Here's what to do if...
Hopefully you already have a list of guests and the gifts you received from each guest. (If you’re just reading this post to plan ahead, here’s a post with a free template you can use to organize your list.) After you write each thank-you, make sure to cross off the names you have completed BEFORE you seal the envelope.
Or something like that. My personal celebration of choice is usually ice cream. You've done it! Now get your butt to the post office and get them in the mail before you're three months late! Not that I've ever done that...